Women Take Action Against Abuse in Office

Women start taking action against abuse in the office by acknowledging the problem.

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Steps for taking action about abuse of women in the office or workplace.

1. Acknowledge the problem.

"Acknowledge the problem, this is the first step to take," says Dr. Marion Gindes, psychologist and business consultant, "dealing with a boss or a co-worker or even a subordinate should not be a systematically disturbing experience. If it is, it means that something is very wrong, not that YOU are wrong. "Don't be afraid to admit it."

2. Face up to it.

Shedding the victim role and being proactive is what Dr.LeslieBeth Berger, a psychologist and consultant specializing in issues that women face in the workplace, recommends to clients who are in a conflictual situation at work.

"Go to the person with whom you're having a problem, talk to him/her directly about it. Try first to work it out on a one-to-one basis."

3. Choose the timing.

"One of my clients," recalls Dr. Berger, "approached a co-worker with whom she had a difficult relationship during the annual office party. She [the client] expressed her disapproval of the fact that he would always take credit for her work. Raising the problem in a social setting rather than privately made her feel safe. However, this strategy was a major faux pas. Not only did her co-worker got angry and denied everything, but he ridiculed her for bringing the issue up while her husband was only a few feet away."

4. Be constructive.

"Don't complain, it might make you look like you're thin-skinned," advises Dr. Gindes.

Propose a solution.

If your supervisor systematically threatens you in public to fire you, don't jump at him/her.

Instead, walk into his/her office and say, "It's hard for me to focus on what you say when there are people around me. Could you please explain to me what I'm doing wrong and how I can improve my performance. Would it be all right if for a while, if I get coached by such person?"

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