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The authors, who specialize in couples therapy, write that singles attract each other when they have approximately the same emotional maturity. Their subsequent marriage breaks down because each partner has difficult aspects that cause problems when they arise. The Moseleys emphasize that changing partners without changing self often dooms the second relationship, too. The first four steps for a successful second marriage include: 1. Partners know themselves and heal themselves before marrying again. 2. Partners discover, then express, their own wants and needs. |
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3. Partners are honest about personal values early in the relationship. 4. Partners learn the other partner's needs and then learn how to satisfy them. But... The Moseleys not only stress knowing yourself and avoiding the same mistakes, they give you the wherewithal to do it.The second marriage also brings past baggage so the authors examine ways to deal with ex-spouses and in-laws, stepchildren, finances, and the all-important prenuptial agreements. |
