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One Man's Brush with Reality, Change, and Positive Thinking

By Mike

One man changes. 

For the Male of Today: 

Things got  so bad that I went out to face the day wondering, "What's going  to go wrong today?"

Eventually I began to think that things were always going to be bad.  I thought that everyone I dealt with wanted something; everyone had  an angle. I became so jaded that no one wanted to deal with me unless they just  HAD to.

Not surprisingly, things continued to get worse. The more I believed  that people just wanted things from me, the less I gave of myself,   the less I offered anyone.

Things continued to spiral downward. The awful things I expected  to happen always came to be. I never understood why.

Years of ups and downs went by until I met a man who had a story.

He told me, "I saw a road and walked down. I fell in a hole. I saw a road with a hole and walked down. I fell in. I saw a road with a hole and thought I could go around. I fell in. I took another road."

I took another road. I began to face each day thinking of all the things in my life that I was happy to have. I began to MAKE myself block out the things that weren't to my liking.

It was work. Work like my old football days ... it took practice,  lots of it.

I MADE myself learn to give, to offer help. Instead of wondering what   someone was going to gain by my help, I settled for the satisfaction of knowing that I was doing what was right by MY OWN STANDARDS.

Things began to change. They were getting better and I was starting to feel less bitter.

I decided that I was tired of being sick and tired. I decided I was going to be happy AND satisfied with the things I DID have.

Suddenly it occurred to me that everyone around me had changed! All  these people who would not act the way I had wanted them to were changing! 

I realized, of course, they were exactly the same as they had  been. I was the one who changed.

All these years I would say to myself, "If he would just do this," or "If this would just happen, my life would be easier...."

After all these years I finally figured out that I could not change people, places, or things ... I could only change myself and the way I perceived things.

I began to ACT happy and eventually it became a way of life.

I stopped concerning myself with what everyone else was making and I began to make more money. I stopped trying to make the things happen in my life that I thought were best and LET things happen.

Things were put into my life that were BETTER than anything I had imagined. I had to admit that I did not know what was best for me ... life knew what was best for me. Life would make good things happen if I just LET IT!

Months crept by. I looked back and realized that the changes had been   subtle, but there WERE changes.

I could see the positive side of things FIRST, instead of the worst.  It wasn't unnatural anymore. Just like the old football days ... practice  makes perfect.

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