Dr. Luv answers surfers. Julie can not get her husband to help around the house or finish the things he starts. |
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| Letter Husband Never Helps Dear Dr. Luv, Hi, my name is Julie and I am not as happy as I used to be in my marriage. I get no help around the house and some things never gets finished. My husband sits in front of the TV or Playstation and says he is so tired from working that he needs a break. That break ends up being all night long. I am a full-time student, work on the weekends, and raise our daughter. I am so overwhelmed and whenever I clean something up he just makes another mess. He is the baby of his family and never had to do any chores growing up. He is EXTREMELY spoiled and I need help. How can I get him to help me out and get him to finish
what he has started? I love him but I am so unhappy and just think I would be better off
by myself sometimes.
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Reply from Dr. Luv
Nagging won’t help any so give it (and yourself) a rest from nagging. Tell him that you are unhappy with the way things are in your marriage and that you wish to get some outside help in the form of marriage counseling. If he is willing, that is good. If not, get the help for yourself and your daughter. You didn’t say how old you two are but I would suspect you are young. You may need a good support group to help you make sense of this. There are no easy answers here. You either can raise two children--your husband and your child--or chose to do something else. If he loves you--and you love him--and both of you want this to work, it will have to be a partnership. Good Luck, |
