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Letters from surfers about grandchildren and grandparents. |
I have a family with a seven year old daughter - Crystal, a 3
month old daughter - Bridgette, my husband and myself. Crystal is my husband's stepchild. Recently, my mother-in-law set up a custodial account for
Bridgette in which $5,000 per year will be deposited in Bridgette's name. Crystal has only $800.00 in a savings account from gift money over
the years. I am very concerned about how Crystal will feel when she learns about Bridgette's "wealth." Crystal considers her
step-grandparents to be grandparents. I worry that she will feel rejected and deceived by her step-grandparents when she learns that they
don't consider her to be a "real" grandchild. I brought this up to my husband and his reply was that there is nothing he can do about it
because it was his Mom that set up the account. Crystal's stepparents were VERY kind to her at Christmastime, and don't do anything otherwise
to make her feel like she isn't an equal grandchild. I considered telling my husband to tell his mother that unless they both have
accounts, then neither have accounts. But then I thought depriving Bridgette of her good fortune just because Crystal isn't so lucky
wouldn't be right. Our family is only 4 months old, so we are still laying the groundwork. Any
suggestions of how to deal with this situation would be appreciated.
KS |
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Surfers send in their letters about grandchildren and grandparents. |
Answer I think you are right not to deprive Bridgette of her "lucky
birth." Good Luck, YW |
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