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Grandparents seek advice about their problems with their grandkids. |
My situation is so "out there," it makes me feel like a candidate
for one of those awful daytime talk shows. My husband and I have been married 17 years. He
has two daughters from a previous marriage, and we have three sons together. The older
daughter is bisexual and "married" her female partner a year ago. That partner is now expecting a baby, due in June. (We don't know who the "father" is.) My stepdaughter wants us to feel excited about becoming grandparents, but neither my husband nor I feel much enthusiasm. He feels ill at ease because, as he says, "This isn't really my grandchild"--there's no biological connection. I feel even less connected--while I get along OK with my stepdaughter, her family situation is one I don't feel ready to embrace. How can my husband and I handle this situation so we can be true to ourselves and still act appropriately? LB Just get to know that grandchild. It is very hard to get to know a baby and not learn to love the child. Then you will act as grandparents and it will be appropriate. YRF Just got back from court with our divorced son, He was verbally abused by his ex for years, but the main abuse now is the children; she has turned the kids against him. They use her verbal words to abuse him. She has transferred her abusive nature to them. The court will do nothing except send the kids and our son to counceling.He has been to 7 councelors in three years,
The evaluator has admitted the she is the problem and very paranoid. Nothing is done . The
kids are now lost to the system and heaven help the future mates. DE There really is no justice and child protective services, at least in my home state of Oregan, is no help either. Even when we suspect sexual abuse. If you can't prove it in black-and-white to these people, you can forget it. They don't even try to help here in Portland. LG |
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