Friendship: A friend is someone you touch. In his book The Friendship Factor, Alan Loy McGinnis writes, " Guideline number one for cultivating intimacy is: Use your body to demonstrate warmth." |
A friend is someone you want to touch. When you see best friends communicating, you will notice they "listen with their eyes," stand close together, and touch comfortably. No one is recommending that you indiscriminately touch and hug everyone in sight. Physical gushing is as much a turn-off as verbal gushing. It repels more people than it attracts. But once a friendship has grown to the point that both friends are comfortable with touching and feel they are being touched with sincerity, touching is a warm form of communication. Good friends want to touch. Good friends touch comfortably. Sometimes just sitting and holding the hand of a friend or touching them on the arm communicates our depth of feeling. When you need to offer comfort, extend encouragement, or express sympathy to a friend, a simple touch can say more than any words. |
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