Friendship: Friends attend and pay attention to friends.
Pay Attention (Attend) to Friends.
Friendship: Friends attend and pay attention to friends. Friends focus on friends.
|Paying attention to someone in a conversation is called
"attending." It means that your ears, your eyes, your body and your feelings are
all focused on that person at the time. Attending includes:
Friendships are a building process. You and your friend gradually share interests, feelings, and goals. Much of this is done by being together physically. Your physical presence shows your friend that you care about him. It affirms that he is important to you.
Focusing means all of your physical and psychological attention is directed toward your friend during the entire conversation. Your body language is good. You are facing and slightly inclined toward your friend. Your facial expressions show interest.
Keep the focus on your friend. Relating similar personal experiences or offering solutions to problems takes focus away from your friend and places it on you. Even though you may feel you are offering empathy or sympathy in this manner, it may seem that you can turn any conversation around to you.
Remember to look with your eyes.
A classic example of looking with "your eyes" is a child coloring while her mother cleans the kitchen. The child finishes a picture and says, "Look at this one, Mommy."
The mother mumbles, ' "That's great," while continuing to chop vegetables.
Finally the child says, "Look now, Mommy. Look with your eyes."
|Looking at another person shows that you are "there for her" during
conversations. It requires a lot of eye contact.
Additional information about friends and friendship.
CyberParent Recommended Reading for More Information:
|Friend-Friendship Directory.||Friendship Defined.|
|Building Friendships.||What Is Friendship?|
|Maintaining Friendships.||Friendships Do End.|
|Friends and Manipulation.||Friendship is comfortable.|
|Losing a Friend.||12 Steps to Grow a Friend.|
|People Equal Friends.||Friends Equal Talk .|
|Friends Acknowledge Friends.||Friends Listen to Friends.|
|Friends Attend to Friends.||Friends Show Empathy.|
|Friends Touch.||Friends Praise Friends.|
|Friends Are Loyal.||Friends Are Equal.|
|Friends Reveal Feelings.||Friends Do Not Mind Read.|
|Setting Limits in Friendships.|
|Review The Friendship Factor.||Review When Friendship Hurts.|
|Review The Friendship Crisis.|
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