Friendship requires conversation. Friends and acquaintances talk. Being able to carry on a comfortable conversation with a social acquaintance is a matter of practice and following these procedures in communicating. It also works for best friends, too.
Conversations, Talking with Friends.
Friendship requires conversation. Friends and acquaintances talk.
|When you are talking to friends: close friend, best
buddy, or social acquaintance, certain follow-up procedures are important. It
doesn't really matter who the person is.
Try these pointers for a successful verbal exchange:
1. Always get the other person's name and always give your name.
2. During the conversation, use the other person's name at least once.
3. Always try to connect with the other person in some common interest or bond. This causes a feeling of rapport.
4. Look the other person in the eye. This doesn't mean stare at the other person. It means moving your eyes within a triangle formed by the width of the forehead at the apex narrowing to the mouth at the bottom of the triangle.
5. Minimize focus on yourself and keep the conversation on the other person.
6. Ask open-ended questions that can not be answered with a "yes" or "no" to keep the conversation rolling.
There are other aspects of conversation that are also universal. They are:
Being able to carry on a comfortable conversation with a social acquaintance is a matter of practice and following these procedures in communicating.
No matter how difficult it is for you to carry on a conversation with a social acquaintance now, remember that it does get easier with practice.
The Friendship Factor How to get closer to the people you care for by Alan Loy McGionnis
We all know people who have countless friends. What is their secret?
The author writes that at the heart of each relationship is the friendship factor and that factor is the essential ingredient of warmth and caring.
The author gives you five ways to deepen all of your relationships, five guidelines for cultivating intimacy, and two ways to handle negative emotions without destroying the relationship.
Best of all McGinnis tells you how to forgive and salvage a faltering friendship or other love relationship.
This small and short (only 191 pages) paperback is quite reasonably priced. It is an excellent book to buy and keep! Book review continued.
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Additional information about friends and friendship.
CyberParent Recommended Reading for More Information:
|Friend-Friendship Directory.||Friendship Defined.|
|Building Friendships.||What Is Friendship?|
|Maintaining Friendships.||Friendships Do End.|
|Friends and Manipulation.||Friendship is comfortable.|
|Losing a Friend.||12 Steps to Grow a Friend.|
|People Equal Friends.||Friends Equal Talk .|
|Friends Acknowledge Friends.||Friends Listen to Friends.|
|Friends Attend to Friends.||Friends Show Empathy.|
|Friends Touch.||Friends Praise Friends.|
|Friends Are Loyal.||Friends Are Equal.|
|Friends Reveal Feelings.||Friends Do Not Mind Read.|
|Setting Limits in Friendships.|
|Review The Friendship Factor.||Review When Friendship Hurts.|
|Review The Friendship Crisis.|
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